How should I solve the problem of being spoken ill of behind my back at work?

You should first make sure whether or not you are being spoken ill of because of your Buddhist practice. If it is related to the practice of true Buddhism, you should try to correct the person. Explain what Nichiren Daishonin’s Buddhism is. It is a good opportunity to shakubuku this person. If you sincerely talk to him, eventually he will understand true Buddhism and you will be able to do shakubuku.
If someone slanders you just because of your personality, it is best to ignore it. One of the sutras states:

Remember the following if you are spoken ill of by somebody and if you are hurt. In general, this denunciation did not begin during the present age. It has existed from very olden times. As for the person who is always silent and calm, he is spoken ill of and called “a reticent person.” The person who speaks a lot is criticized as “a talkative person.” The person who knows courtesy is accused of “plotting something,” and his bad reputation spreads.
(Summary, Dharmapada [Hokku-kyo])

As you can see, even though one may be a good person, it is not unusual to be criticized by somebody. At that time, you should not react against the person. Instead, calm yourself down. If you become angry, thinking, “Gee, he shouldn’t be talking so badly!” and overreact, you may lose your composure, and eventually your life condition will fall into the three evil paths. How can you make good causes in the lower worlds? Do not waste time by getting involved in trivial things. Try to smile when you have to meet this person, even though your face may be drawn with tension. You can do it if you chant Daimoku in your mind. The Daishonin stated:

A truly wise man will not be carried away by any of the eight winds: prosperity, decline, disgrace, honor, praise, censure, suffering, and pleasure. He is neither elated by prosperity nor grieved by decline. The heavenly gods will surely protect one who does not bend before the eight winds.
(MW-1, p. 205)
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